Now that I’m in my mid-20’s, and most of my friends are the same age or a few years older, I’ve noticed that some of my single friends seem jealous that I am married.
This is a huge turn around from the first 5 years of my marriage, where all my single friends thought I was crazy and giving up my life to get married so young.
I attribute the shift in attitude to the societal pressure to settle down and get married that most women feel once they hit around 25/26. At that point, they are done with college and likely a few years into their career, which means that the priority should now shift to relationships; finding the right man, settling down and getting ready to have a few kids once they hit 30.
I’ve find that I feel very odd about the jealousy; because they are jealous of my marital status, not my marriage.
As my friends, they of course care that I am happily married, but the jealousy isn’t about my happiness with my husband, it’s about the fact that I have a husband.
They think that I have “won”; I’ve crossed the finish line of life…I am married.
I wish that I could make them see that marriage isn’t the finish line; it’s the start of a whole other race.
Getting married isn’t the destination; it’s just the start of a new adventure.