Jeremy and I had lunch with some friends of ours that we haven’t seen since Jeremy left for deployment. They are currently expecting their first baby girl, so of course the conversation turned to pregnancy and when we are going to start trying. (See previous post for our 5-year plan)
I mentioned that I have thought about having a baby within the next few years before Jeremy gets out so we can use the free medical and then our baby would be 2 or so when he gets out and at a better age for daycare/preschool.
Jeremy, of course, acted freaked out about this lol. But later, when we were driving home he asked me if I really wanted to have a baby before he gets out, that we would need to do it right now if that was what I wanted.
I thought about it, but even though I want to be a mom within the next 2-3 years, the idea of trying to get pregnant right now is still scary.
There are so many things that I want to do still.
Which gets me on the topic that biology needs to catch up with society.
I will be 24 when I graduate with my masters. I went straight to a 4-year university after graduating high school and then on to a 2-year masters degree program.
It will take me another 2-3 years of working full-time to get licensed, making me 28 and just starting to establish my career.
Yet the ideal age to have children is 20 – 35, so if you want to have more than one child, you should probably start in your mid-20’s. Having a baby after 30 is hard; your fertility goes down, chances of miscarriage increase and genetic risks.
But how many women these days are married, done with college and in a stable career by their mid-twenties? How many men are?
“the average childbearing age for women is now 29.3 years of age. In 1968 the average age was 23.” – source
So, I vote that our reproductive system needs to catch up to the evolution of society. Too bad that kind of stuff takes thousands of years lol.