Post-Deployment Reintegration

Now that my husband has been home from deployment for a month I thought I would write a “reintegration” post.

I’ve read a lot of reintegration blog posts and even been to a lecture about it at the return & reunion brief before homecoming. So I will start by saying that everyones experience is going to be different, because every couple is different, every deployment is different and every Soldier/Marine/Sailor/Airman reacts differently to deployment.

But from my extensive experience (lol, 2 deployments), I’ve found that my experience has been a little different then the typical one they prepare you for with awkward readjustments and fights.

When Jeremy comes home it feels like he never left. There is no awkward phase.

The best way I can explain it is like being on summer break then going back to school.

When you’re a kid you have a routine during the school year. You wake up at a certain time, go to the same classes everyday, do homework at night, etc. And you get used to that routine.

Then summer comes along and you change your routine. You have freedom, you start sleeping in and staying up later at night. The first few days you may still wake up at 6:30 am, but eventually you adjust and pretty soon your sleeping in. (aka, deployment lol)

But three months later and school starts again. A new routine. But not a different routine. It’s something that your already used to, and waking up for the first day of school might be a little hard, but when you get there you know exactly what your doing and it feels like a normal part of your life because (when your a kid), it is the normal routine of your life.

And that’s what deployment and reintegration feels like to me.

Jeremy being home is a routine that I know, a routine that is my normal life. It feels natural to fall back into it.

This experience may not be normal for every couples, as I said above. And it certainly doesn’t mean anything negative about your marriage if you don’t have a smooth transition, that’s normal for a lot of people as well.

But that has always been my experience and I wanted to share it in case anybody else feels this way or is worried about what reintegration will be like. It’s not always as scary as they make it seem πŸ™‚


2 thoughts on “Post-Deployment Reintegration

  1. Oh my goodness! I loved reading this ~ My husband and I are going through our first deployment, and I have been wondering what it will be like once we are back together…! I’m hoping there won’t be an awkward phase for us!! Thank you for sharing πŸ™‚

  2. My husband comes home this summer. This is our first deployment and I know it will probably be easier on him to come home than it will be for me. I have Asperger’s (a high functioning form of autism) and I don’t deal with change well. I also don’t relinquish control easily, so he’s gonna have to fight me for the remote more than once, I’d venture. It’s gonna be hard on me. I’ve grown used to him not being around, for me there is little emotional connection to things I’m not in constant contact with. I stop feeling the emotions associated with that person or thing. I have a feel this will make it more difficult when he comes home. I have to relearn how to love him… Though, that may not be all bad πŸ˜‰

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